A Written Agreement!

It was not long after discovering Keyholder Online that my partner and I realised the power of this solution and that a written agreement could help define what we were doing and why. This was a great exercise. Even though one partner is dominant and the other submissive, this document represents a two way street because, after all, both have desires and wants that are being catered to. A good approach is for both parties to gather up samples agreements online and then discuss wording that each wants to see. Creating this document is a really great exercise! One of the overarching benefits of a written agreement is to mitigate the dominant being overwhelmed by their cum deprived raving chaste submissive. This is because both sides know exactly what they are getting into plus you can include that the chaste partner can only bother the key holder with new ideas on certain days not every five minutes! This document also liberates the dominant partner to understand, explicitly, where he or she can take things. Yes, that scene in Fifty Shades of Grey where she removes “fisting” from their agreement is now oh so real!  It can also gives assurances to the chaste partner about how often he will be allowed release and the care he will be given such as cleaning and hygiene. After time, due to trust being developed, this might not be so important but initially the idea that your partner could lock you up for six months might be a little overwhelming! Its a funny document actually because the two sides are so different! One is like “I will submit to locking on demand” and the other is “I agree to care for the hygiene of the cock I now own”. See what I mean? But it’s also a serious document. You will find, once you do it that you return to it frequently. For example, one of our rules is that when I return from a trip I must get on my knees and hand my Mistress a new pair of panties I bought for her. This is a real turn on for her, and without being written down its not as enforceable. If I fail to do this I actually breach a written agreement and suffer specified and measurable consequences. In my opinion, a chastity agreement is a necessary part of the key holder relationship. But, a final word is that it is not clad in stone. It should be revisited at intervals and improved over time through mutual agreement.